Is Sex Before Marriage a Sin

Wes  —  November 16, 2011 — 9 Comments
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There are many Christian young people today honestly wondering, “Is sex before marriage a sin.” These young people have been confused by a culture that is absolutely saturated with sex. They hear things all the time like, “If two people love each other then it’s not wrong.” But, young people, your friends and the television are not the ultimate authority on what is right and wrong. Let’s see what God has to say about this issue.

Is sex before marriage a sin?

1. God created the sexual relationship to be shared by a husband and a wife. Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (NASB).

An adulterer is a married person who has sex with someone to whom he/she is not married. A fornicator is a broader term which includes anyone having any kind of sexual relationship outside of marriage. Both acts, adultery and fornication, are said to “defile” the marriage bed. These acts dishonor marriage.

2. Under the old law, those who had sex before marriage could be stoned. Thankfully, we are under a new covenant today; but in Deuteronomy 22:20-21, God says that if a man marries a woman and discovers that she was not a virgin on their wedding night and the charge is proved to be true, she should be stoned by the men of the city. If nothing else, this law teaches us that God’s will is for a man and woman not to engage in sexual relations until after they are married.

3. Sexual sin is devastating…and forgivable. Paul wrote to the Corinthians saying, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sina person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body” (1 Corinthians 6:18). Sexual sin has so many spiritual, physical, and emotional consequences. Sex, as God planned it and designed is a wonderful gift. However, when people abuse God’s gift, the results are devastating.

Fortunately, we serve a gracious and loving God who is able to wash away our sins, no matter what they are. Paul said that there were Christians in Corinth who had been homosexuals, sexually immoral, thieves, and drunkards. But then he wrote, “But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God” (1 Corinthians 6:11).

No matter who you are or what you have done, it is never too late to repent of your sins and appeal to God through Jesus Christ for salvation and a clean conscience (1 Peter 3:21). But please know, and tell others, that God absolutely considers sex before marriage sinful.

I love you and God loves you!

  • Toni

    Thanks for sticking up for what God says. I love you and am so very proud of you!

    • Matt, child of God

      So Adam and Eve when God commanded them to go forth and multiply?

      God doesn’t command sin

      He commanded unwed sex.

      Unmarried sex is not sin. It can be when multiple partners are had.

      Valiant effort though.

  • Matt, child of God

    Adam and Eve did not commit sin when God commanded them to go forth and multiply, unwed sex. (Gen 1:28)

    God does not command sin.

    Unwed sex is not sin. It only is once you choose multiple partners.

    • Cathy

      ARE YOU KIDDING ME? God created Adam and Eve for each and united them through Adam’s flesh (i.e. rib). Just because God didn’t create a pastor to marry them they weren’t married? God is the ultimate authority. You sound ridiculous…. and then you say that it “only is once you choose multiple partners?” wow guess who’s writing their own laws…

  • Daniel

    I had a girlfriend with whom I have done some immoralities. We broke up and I guess that we both repent. Now she got married. So my question is: Is she under God’s approval and bless? I am questioning it because I want to find a girl for myself, and I want to be 100% under God’s approval. It’s been 11 years since we broke up and I must say.. IT IS HARD!!!

    • Wes McAdams


      Thanks for reaching out. I apologize, I’m a little confused about your question, but I would love to visit with you more about it if you’d like. You can use the contact form to contact me privately.

  • Jeff

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